Tuesday

Ego lives off the self esteem

A parasite, that thing that nags inside the insides of you making you feel good/completely bad, your Ego is a parasite.

It grazes on the marginal increases (or decreases) of your true value. A value that comes from a compliment, an exaggerated self worth hardly concealing some deep rooted personality flaw, or a misery. It doesn't matter so long your whole focus is put on 'I' every time you try to think of something.

A true value is usually less than what you think of your self and more than what others think of you. Vice versa maybe. There is no equation for it. (My usual answer to this to is NO-ONE so that I stop fearing the fears I made in my head.)

Self esteem is like fast food junk. It helps making the ego grow to eventually become a morbid obese. Until, if you are lucky, something (bad) happens and brings it back to its real state. And then we call that (bad) something a good thing, an experience. Or whatever.

So should you abandon your self esteem? Well..

There is self-esteem and self-respect. With a high self esteem you over emphasize those good things that you have or do. With a high self respect you live trying to fix every flaw you have or do. Confidence comes from self respect and not from self esteem.

Notice how every D-listed celebrity is all over the place with their arrogance and annoying pompous behavior? Totally out of mind. This is what sets great minds that lived and have been living among us from D- & B- listed celebs. Humbleness. Self respect.


Sadly, happiness is NOT for free




You give up money to get a decent home. Abandon one long argument to get a peace of mind. Give up sleep, to get income and security.

Buying is a process that is not bound solely to money and trading. It is giving up valuables in order to gain stuff you need.

Happiness is in the mind, it cannot be measured by no logical measure. A continuous state of mind that lasts for much longer let's say, pleasure.

Pleasure is tied to material: purchase-ables, things we buy, touch and eat. Which is why it gives us a sense of instant happiness... Instant... instant does not last long enough.

To buy happiness, you may want to give up cynicism, abandon the bits of stuff you identify with, and probably, your big ego.

Give aways your precious things to those who need them, as the saying:

“We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give.” --Churchil

No, happiness doesn't come for free.

(c) Image Courtesy of Barbara Kruger